HELP FOR THE FAMILY
On these pages we will talk about support for family members/significant others who are affected by someone else’s alcohol use, drug use or gambling. Each of these can cause a range of specific difficulties and problems for family members/significant others.
It can be hard to admit that one of our family may have a problem. What does it look like? Why does it happen? Am I overreacting? Hopefully this page will help with any questions you may have.
A person does not have to be drinking all day or every day to have a drink problem, so it can be very difficult to tell when a persons normal social drinking progresses into a problem drinking. The same applies to drug use and gambling. Think about the person you are worried about; are you able to answer yes to any of the following questions?
- Are family relationships or work affected by their drinking, drug use or gambling?
- Do arguments occur regularly because of drinking, drug use or gambling?
- Does the person become defensive when their behaviour is discussed?
- Do they try and hide or minimise their behaviour?
- Are they drinking more than sensible limits, or are their signs that their drug use or gambling is escalating?
- Are there any financial problems caused by alcohol, drug use or gambling activities?
- Is the person displaying physical signs of alcohol or drug dependence. This is not as straight forward with Gambling, they may have lots of time or money unaccounted for?
- Does the person you are concerned about make regular and unfilled promises to cut down their alcohol consumption, drug use or gambling ?
Remember even occasional drunkenness and/or episodes of binge drinking, recreational drug use and gambling episodes can cause a range of problems for the family/significant others
It can very distressing for family members who, try as they might to get the person to stop or cut down the behaviour and find they’re unable to affect change and feel helpless and alone in such a situation.